Control is what empowers the space in the mind for positive thoughts. Some thoughts limit control and create dependency, some of these thoughts are: Anger, Lust, Envy, Hate, Greed, and Pride. If you want be in control, the first step is to recognize these feelings and then choose to eliminate them. When those feelings are gone, your mind is free to choose other thoughts. Thoughts of hope, love, aspiration, and service are thoughts that lead to joy and fulfillment.