8 Super Quick Ways To Immediately Increase Your Confidence

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Sometimes we might need a quick boost of confidence. Here are some actionable ideas that work quickly when you need a shot of confidence:

  1. Create a Personal Mission Statement. Keep a copy with you and read it several times during the day. (What do you do? Why do you do it?)
  2. Make and replay your “true vision” (mental movie trailer that shows you achieving your goals) in your mind.
  3. List Your 5 Greatest Accomplishments. Read it. Remember how you felt when you did those things.
  4. Write down 5 “things” you are grateful for.
  5. Smile again. Keep smiling.
  6. Keep a “Success” notebook (app?) and write down what you accomplish(ed) during the day.
  7. Fix your posture. Stand up straight. Get in a power pose for 2 minutes.
  8. Write down your daily positive affirmations. Read them out loud. Check out this Inc.com article for mine: 9 Affirmations the Most Successful People Repeat Each and Every Day

And if none of these ideas work, read an uplifting story, or a powerful quote, or meditate. Actions create success. Positive actions create confidence as well as success.

Bonus: 8 of my favorite quotes on confidence.

  1. “Always be yourself and have faith in yourself. Do not go out and look for a successful personality and try to duplicate it.” Bruce Lee

  2. “As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

  3. “Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have.” Brian Tracy

  4. “Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful.” Mark Victor Hansen

  5. “If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is, too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.”  Harv Eker

  6. “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”Dale Carnegie

  7. “It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.” Oprah Winfrey

  8. “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” Helen Keller

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8 Traits the Most Self-Assured People Share

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People-watching is fun — sometimes inspiring, always instructive — so whenever I’m around people I try to learn as much as I can.

In business meetings I pay attention to and notice who does what. At community events I focus on what leaders and influencers do. I learn what to do and just as important, what not to do.

And I definitely notice what poised, self-assured, confident people do consistently:

1. They take responsibility.

Confident people don’t blame others. No matter the circumstance, a confident person understands that truly owning one’s feelings, emotions, and results is the only true path to success.

2. They crave progress.

Confident people don’t aspire for perfection; they drive for improvement.

To a confident person, the “perfect person” is one who knows who they really are and fully embraces their own possibilities. Improvement is a choice as well as a journey.

3. They don’t gossip — they uplift.

Confident people don’t talk about other people. They talk about ideas, projects, goals, plans, and aspirations.

They recognize the importance of staying positive — or at least neutral.

4. They understand the power of saying “no.”

Confident people don’t over-promise. They understand the value of time and effort and are conscious to commit to things that are aligned with their ultimate goals, passions, and beliefs.

By doing this, confident people are able to give their best at all times.

5. They honor their minds and their bodies.

Confident people know they need to take care of themselves to do and be their best. They value balance, which includes exercise, relationships, eating well, education, hard work, and sleep.

6. They know and act on their “why.”

Confident people have a purpose. The reason behind an action drives the enthusiasm for that action.

As a result they are excited, dedicated, passionate, and fearless. And they share their passions with others.

7. They ask for help.

Confident people know that trying to accomplish everything alone is not possible. They ask for help often. Confident people don’t feel threatened by seeking help from others.

Confident people love helping others, but they also love being helped.

8. They view failure as a learning moment.

Confident people don’t see failure as an end but instead as a tool to grow. They recognize that on the road to success there will be trials, challenges, and obstacles — but they know perseverance always wins in the end.

Remember, learning from others doesn’t mean striving to become a mirror image. Instead, take the best and find ways to make it your own and always ensure your actions align with the results you seek.

Watching and learning from the actions of others will help you learn more about yourself — because that is one of the best ways to become the best you.

**This article was originally published at Inc.com 

10 Traits of Confident People

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage...Go out and get busy.” —Dale Carnegie

  1. They take responsibility. They don’t blame others. No matter what the circumstance is, a confident person understands that ownership of results, feelings, and emotions is the only true path to success.
  2. They focus on their strengths. Confident people know their strengths and weaknesses, they understand their abilities and they continuously look to improve themselves while focusing on using their strengths.
  3. Confident people crave progress. They don’t aspire for perfection, they drive for improvement. To a confident person, the “perfect person” is one who knows who they really are and fully embraces their own possibilities. Improvement is a choice as well as a journey.
  4. They uplift others, they don’t gossip. Confident people don’t talk about other people, they talk about ideas, projects,  goals, plans and aspirations. They recognize the importance of staying neutral.
  5. They understand the ‘Power’ of saying no. Confident people don’t over-promise. They understand the value of time and effort and are conscious to commit to things that are aligned with their ultimate goals, passions, and beliefs. By doing this, confident people can give their 100% at all times.
  6. The focus on the end goal and the actions needed to get there. They don’t waste their time worrying. Time is valuable. Confident people spend their energy on what they can control, on their circle of influence.
  7. They honor their bodies and minds. Confident people know that they need to take care of themselves to do and be their best. They value balance which includes exercise, hard-work, relationships, eating well, education, and sleep.
  8. They know their “WHY”.  The reason behind the action drives the enthusiasm. They are excited, dedicated, passionate and fearless.  They share their passion with others.
  9. They ask for help. Often. Confident people know that trying to accomplish everything alone is not possible. Confident people don’t feel threatened by seeking help from others. Confident people love helping others, but also love getting helped.
  10. They view failure as a learning moment. They don’t see failures as the end but instead as a tool to grow. They recognize that on the road to success there will always be trials, challenges, and obstacles but they know that perseverance always wins in the end.

Simple Steps to Increase Your Confidence

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I used to think that confident people showed confidence through their outgoing personalities. I was wrong. Personality type is not an indicator of confidence. Extroverts are often lacking in self-esteem. Introverts often have confidence to spare. Confidence is created through consistent actions that can be adjusted. The more we work to develop our confidence the stronger we become.

“Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered–just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.” Barrie Davenport

Successful people show confidence—they truly believe in what they are doing and in themselves. Their success does not make them confident; their confidence makes them successful.

“Nothing can stop the (wo)man with the right mental attitude from achieving his/her goal; nothing on earth can help the (wo)man with the wrong mental attitude.” Thomas Jefferson

Confidence is not permanent. Some days you might have a strong sense of belief in who you are and what you are capable of. Other days might exist where you think you can’t do anything right. Maybe even this emotional switch happens multiple times throughout the same day? They main thing to keep in mind is that there are ways to keep the feeling of self-worth longer by practicing a few basic habits.

“If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is, too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.” T. Harv Eker

Remember that:

  • Emotions are contagious. Enthusiasm is multiplied. Doubt is shared. Confidence is a feeling of strength and can be spread.
  • Trying new things take confidence.
  • The only one stopping us from reaching our goals is ourselves.
  • With training and practice everyone can become more confident.
  • Confidence can be influenced from external forces, but the strongest most lasting form of confidence comes from within.

With those key items in place, here are 5 simple steps that lead to more confidence:

1. Change Your Self-Talk

Your life is a reflection of you inner thoughts. You have the ability to tell yourself what you believe about yourself. Tell yourself you are valuable, important, and good enough. Stop listening to those people who do not support you.

2. Find a Mentor

Find some one who supports you and wants you to succeed. Have them give you constant feedback and encouragement.

3. Be a Mentor

Stop thinking only about yourself – helping others is a great way to learn, grow, and realize your contributions are needed.

4. Exercise

Just do it. You will be happier and more confident. Trust me.

5. Keep Going

Confidence is created one step at a time. Once you are able to prove to yourself that you can complete an assignment or that you can finish a project, your confidence rises. The more you do, the more you CAN do.

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” Dale Carnegie

by Mareo McCracken

I was a Loser then “1 Thing” Changed My Life – in 4 steps

“Your true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you take in payment.”

 

“You suck.” “You’re a freak.” “You’re lame.” I used to believe everything people told me, especially when they told me about myself. Some people told me I was awesome (thanks Mom, thanks Geromy). Others told me I was a loser (thanks junior high) or immature (thanks Mr. *&^%$#, 8th grade health teacher). Then others said I am unstoppable and deserve the best (thanks Emilie). Others ignored my existence (thanks sophomore and junior years of high school). I was lucky though – while I was getting “mean girled” as best they could – since it was before facebook and texts, as soon as I got home it all stopped.

I still remember like it was yesterday, the day I decided that I am going to only believe what I want to believe.

The move to Yuma looked bad on paper. It was the summer before my senior year of high school and my Mom got a new job and our entire family was leaving the town and state (Boise, ID) I spent my entire life in. We had just finished summer football camp and things were looking good, I was expected to start both ways and was looking forward to having a great senior year with my one friend (Thanks Steve H.). On the way down to Arizona our U-haul (Driven by my older brother) and our car (driven by me) were separated in Las Vegas, this was before our family had cell phones. It was my fault as I took a last minute highway switch ramp. We kept driving and would stop every so often (Needles / Searchlight) calling a friend back home who was our safety checkpoint. Eventually we met up about 6 hrs later in Yuma. During the time I was feeling horrible and worried I would never see half of my family again. The realization came that the only people that matter are those that care about you. No one else’s opinion, view or ideas really have a greater degree of importance. If the opinions of others don’t matter, then I am free to be who I want to be. I decided right then and there to always listen to who the people that support me and tune out the things that do not help me. We got to Arizona right in time for school to start. I was motivated to help others and be the friend I wanted to have. I determined who I was, how I acted, and what I thought based on my internal thoughts – not on anything that was going on around me. It worked. Since I had confidence now in who I was, I was able to make friends, help others, and let myself be helped (Thanks Derek W., Reggie G., David M., Ben W., Jessica L., Mitch K., Cameron C., Lindsay, LeRyan L., Frederick L. and so many others….).

Once the actions of others only mattered when I let them, it seemed that everyone’s actions started to be positive and supportive. Then I let the idea carry me through college and my time in Hong Kong (that was hard, but worth it and more fulfilling than anything else). In my professional life it has been harder to stay so focused and not to let worry and self-doubt creep in, but when I do, I go back and remember that early August day in the summer of 2000 and things start to fall back into place.

What do you believe in?

Do you believe all the negativity you constantly hear? Do you believe the haters and the cynics? Do you believe your fears? What we believe determines our destiny. Our thoughts determine our reality. To change our reality, we must change our perception, we must change our reactions, and change our self-talk. We must keep our expectations high. We become what we habitually think about.

When you stop worrying about what others think of you and instead focus on the value you can bring to others, your life will change.

4 points to remember:

1. Believe in Your Intrinsic Value

You are important because you exist, that is enough to start with. You have ideas. You can accomplish things. You can help people.

“I think true success is intrinsic… It’s love. It’s kindness. It’s community.” – Tom Shadyac

2. Always Give More Value than You Receive

This will end up being a futile process as the more you give the more other people want to help and there are always more of them then there is of you. But try anyway.

“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” – Lao Tzu

3. No More Excuses

Nothing is anyone’s fault. If you cannot control it, stop worrying about it. Focus on what you can control. Don’t create room for failure to be expected. Learn and grow. Don’t fail, adjust.

“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bull#*%t story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.” – Jordan Belfort

4. Choose Gratitude

When you are thankful for what you have, you will get more. When you want less, you will always have enough. Gratitude unlocks the door to happiness.

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” – Denis Waitley

We are the ones who determine our future and create our reality by the thoughts we plant and the actions we take. Think positively and act correctly and you will find success.

What about you? What limiting beliefs have you been able to let go of? What tools / strategies have helped you overcome your own self-doubts? Please comment below.

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by Mareo McCracken