Instead of questioning who we are, we should only question what to we want to become. Who we are focuses on the past, of which we have zero control over. Since we can only focus on the now and the future, the better questions are about current actions. What actions can I take today that will lead me to my goals? As we focus what we want our confidence will increase. Confidence decreases as we focus on what we are not. By working toward a destination, we can visualize that destination, if the image is real in our minds, we will begin to act in a way that makes the reality come true. Actions can’t be divided. Actions are driven by thought, therefore our thoughts must be focused on what we want rather than on missed chances.