When you get an injury, healing the wound is about finding the cure, then repair, and finally recovery.
In order to heal, you don’t need to understand why someone hurt you.
You definitely don’t need to blame who did it.
Asking why is great when the truth helps us, most of the time when injury is concerned, the historical truth can’t and won’t help us heal.
Just being aware that it happened allows us to take curative action in the short term, and preventative action in the long term.
When you get bit by a snake, you don’t need to interview the the snake the get the antidote.
You don’t need to blame the snake to rest and recover once the antidote has been applied.
And you don’t need to talk it out with the snake to prevent getting bitten again.
Usually, those actions are ones we take for personal gratification thinking they will help us heal, when in reality it just delays the healing and ends up causing us to waste time, become a victim, and get hurt again and again.