Detachment from the false (negative) story is the only way to attach to the true (positive) story.
The stronger we feel toward a specific topic, the more emotionally connected we are – the harder it is for us to see the perspective from another’s point of view. Awareness and deliberate reflection can help adjust and tame the desire to always be right even when we are so committed.
While attention may be divided, or fleeting, or unfocused – your priorities, your true needs are always top of mind and determine the actions you take.
If something controls your time, it owns you.
If someone controls your time, they own you.
Agency is about control, self-control.
Use it wisely so you don’t lose control.
In order to fix your confidence:
- Fix Your Skills – gain the right ones
- Fix Your Experience – do more
- Fix Your Self-Judgement – stop it
- Fix Your Fear – embrace it
- Fix Your Expectations – accept current reality while working towards your desired reality
Those are the reasons confidence is weak. Once fixed, your confidence will be strong.
Avoiding experiences never works. What we are really avoiding is feelings, not the experience. When we gain awareness and control, we have the ability to choose how we feel about our experiences. Embrace the experience and choose the feeling.
If we disengage from our experiences, no amount of positive thinking will help.
We must stay engaged in order to feel, experience, and change.
We give what we get. We get what we give. Not always right away, not in fair or just timelines, but in the end, it all comes around. In order to create more, be more. In order to get more, give more.
Feeling part of something bigger, something else, something more … that is what drives empathy, connection, and community. That feeling is what prevents pure self-ambition from taking over and delivers true human collaboration.
If you want others to succeed, show them how.