If you lose sight of the main focus, every other focus always becomes a distraction. 

Our goals and dreams will always take longer to achieve than we initially planned. If we stretch out our expectations we increase our probability for success. 

Adapting is part of life. The better we adapt the better our life. 

Most people seek praise when what they need is acceptance.

Self-sabotage is not about self-hate, a need or desire for something bad, rather it is irrational fear. 

Most of the time it is not conscious behavior. Self-sabotage is the internalization of unmet needs combined with fear. 

After we accept, then embrace our fears, we can work on plans to overcome them, thus, defeating self-sabotage. 

Coping is not solving. 

Coping mechanisms are not solutions.

They are placeholders, stalling techniques, and pain blockers, that are designed for temporary relief. 

For long-term healing, solve the problem, so coping isn’t needed. 

True friendship is magical because it isn’t forced, mandated, or designated by birth.  Real friendship is when two sides decide to care for one another without focusing on changing them, but rather just the desire to experience life around each other. Friendship is a choice that brings about benefits that always outweigh the costs. 

The desire to be better is everything. 

The desire for improvement shows where your heart is. 

Past actions, mistakes, failures, and lapses are not nearly as relevant as where your heart is today. 

 

 

Happy Birthday, Cobi!!!!  Keep expressing your true desire for consistent excellence and growth. Love you! 

Faith is what enables us to continue when confidence and belief start to fail.

When we have faith we can use that to strengthen areas where we feel weak.  

Most of our biggest mental and emotional challenges do not come from what is happening, but rather how we decide to think and feel and react to what is happening. What we do supercedes how we feel. Since actions create feelings, so we must do to feel.