If you want to win people to your side, let them feel like they discovered the problem on their own. 

If you want to convince people to change, help them uncover and create the solution on their own.  

Those who love you feel with you… 

they feel hurt when you are hurt,

they feel grief when you are grieving,

they feel sadness when you are sad,

they feel joy when you are winning. 

Your actions always prove what you care about. 

Love fear less, love faith more. 

Love ego less, love service more. 

Love being right less, love kindness more. 

Love things less, love people more. 

Anguish can return.

Desperation can find its way back.

Hopelessness somehow fights to come inside.

Yet, no matter the despair, the solution is always outside of us, it is always turning from inside ourselves to thinking about others. 

The solution is always service. 

Once you have a desire to do or become something, then you need to believe you can do it. Once you know where you want to go, you can figure out where you are, and then draft a plan, a step-by-step process of how to bridge the gap. This plan will include daily actions, skill development, ways to avoid, reduce, or overcome potential challenges, and people who can support you along the way. Once this plan is written down, all it takes is commitment. Commit to the plan and watch your desire become your reality. 

The more defined the destination, the more clear the road becomes. Thus masterfully crafting your end objective is how you create your journey’s path. 

Working toward limits will always limit our results.

Working toward imagination erases false boundaries and enables new possibilities. 

Some people do better work than others, trust them.

Some people care more than others, trust them. 

Some people show up, trust them. 

When there is contention, or conflict we often forget to self-regulate our emotions due to lack of commitment to actually solve the problem. We desire a preferred outcome, but not an overall solution.  Personal outcomes often differ from group or other-focused solutions.