Contentment is tricky. You should always be content with what you have. You should never be content with what you have done. It is about impact over things, influence over material possessions. Being content with what you have brings peace and satisfaction, not being content with your contributions allows you to keep growing, to keep serving, and to keep helping.
When you give of yourself, you fulfill your needs, as well as the needs of others. The only way to truly lead others is to give of yourself.
It always about choices. If you can’t do something, change your choices until what you truly desire is possible. Learn something new, help someone, change your job, get new friends, move if you have to. It is never someone else’s fault, even if they did cause the problem, your reaction is 100% yours. Own it.
No amount of pride is worth separation. No amount of ego is justifiable for missing out on needed relationships. As we learn to grow, we learn to let go of pride and ego, as they are the two biggest reasons we choke our own progress. Followed by fear, fear is next. Do not let ego, pride, and fear get in the way of achieving your potential.
Saying sorry is hard and often needs to be done multiple times. Every relationship worth cultivating overflows with apologies.
Eva – I love you and I am sorry.
Learn what to do is important. Learning what not to do is important. Don’t glorify one at the expense of the other. Don’t only learn from failure, succeed some as well. Learn what it takes and learn what ingredients are not needed. Then you can craft a better recipe.
Consistency is more important than intensity. Intensity is needed, yet sparingly. If you go intense all the time, you are actually never getting to deliver maximum effort. Intensity by definition is maximum effort and requires extended rest after exertion. Consistency allows you to keep going, often, all the time. Consistency increases confidence and skill.
Leave others better than you found them. Support them. Show kindness. Encourage them. If they get better when they are around you, then you have done your job, then you are wanted, then you creating influence.
Decisions are always made by certain criteria. These criteria are the rules of the game. Learn the rules, and then you can play the game. Learn the rules well, play well, and you can win. Then you can help others win too.
When you know what you want, it is much easier to go after it. Create your “ideal” – know what you want, define it, and pursue it. Don’t settle for less. Keep going.