While there are no bad questions, there are plenty of bad intentions behind the questions. 

If you are curious and want to learn the answer, then the questions and intentions are good. 

If you have an agenda, if you have a perceived notion of how you want things to be and how you think they should be, then you do not have questions, really, what you have are your selfish desires hidden behind a facade of questioning words. 

Professionally, the way we want to be treated usually aligns with the story we create, rather than the reality of who we are.  If we want better all we need to do is be better. 

If you want it, give it. 

Love? Love more. 

Acceptance? Accept others.

Respect? Show it.

You attract what you are and what you give. 

If you are learning, if you are breaking through emotional barriers, personal conflict, and professional growth you will be doing a few things differently: 

1. You Will See Patterns – in others, in yourself (good+bad) 
2. Your Are More Curious – you want more knowledge 
3. You Feel There Is More – yet sometimes, you don’t know how to grasp it 
4. You Separate Thoughts & Feelings – they are not the same and you are aware 
5. You Focus On The Journey – it is not just about results anymore
6. You Are Less Selfish – you understand the value of your relationships better 
7. You Care More – you care about quality, purpose, and others 

Your individual purpose and unique destiny, will always be tied to two things:

1. How you overcame your toughest challenges. 
2. What you accomplished when you helped others the most.

Study those times, those experiences and reflect and ponder on what you did and who you were, then do more of the same, that is how you will keep fulfilling your potential.  

Just because it wasn’t your fault, it doesn’t mean you are not responsible. 

Fault involves blame. 

Responsibility is about control, authority, ownership, and action. 

Take responsibility and fault will never enter the picture. 

Without fault, there is no victim. 

When we feel entitled to something we didn’t earn, that is the same moment we start to become victims, victims of others and victims of our circumstance. 

Receiving what we don’t earn or work for or deserve is part of life and we should accept the grace, gifts, and generosity with appreciation. 

Yet, once that appreciation turns into expectation, that is when we have crossed the line. 

We create true buy-in when we help people feel that they are actually part of the final decision and that their contribution affects to the desired result.

Serving others while creating and driving emotional buy-in is the highest form of leadership. 

If you can communicate the right way, anything is possible.