To find peace, to feel alive, to become who we were meant to become we need to pay the price. It is not our hard work or effort, but the opposite. The price we have to pay is the price of letting go. It is easier to hold on to old beliefs, old ideas, old fears, old grievances than it is to move on, to let go, and to live new. The price might be high, but it is always worth the cost and is always a price everyone can afford, everyone can pay.

True confidence does not mean one does not feel or experience fear. It is just that the relationship has changed, it is a transformed relationship with fear. Fear is not in control and does not determine the outcome. Fear is now an adviser and not a decision-maker. With confidence, you become the decision-maker in your life, not your fear.

Accepting yourself for who you are is far more important than self-esteem. Self-esteem is about comparison and confidence in your ability, but, self-acceptance is about understanding who truly you are, understanding where you come from, and knowing where you are going.

 

Vulnerability is the ability to share with transparency and be honest with yourself and others. Being vulnerable is not being a victim. Vulnerability is only powerful when combined with strength – the strength of character, the strength of decision, the strength of determination, the strength of resilience, the strength of will. Strength is the key to unlocking the power of vulnerability.

If you can listen, you can help.

Learn to listen.

All beliefs are made up of three parts:

Cause — Effect — Meaning

In order to influence beliefs, you must influence one of the three components.

Ego kills. Pride kills.

Ego and pride in skill: destroy skill.

Ego and pride in wealth: destroy wealth.

Ego and pride in relationships: destroy relationships.

What the ego craves, pride destroys.

 

 

 

What works best today, might not work best tomorrow. That is why flexibility is so important. While the goal doesn’t change, how we get there does.

We can adapt intentionally. We can act on purpose. We can change to a desired future state.

In order to get to where you want to go, it is important to know where you are going. Even more important though is knowing where you are right now. With gratitude and perspective, you might actually be already where you want to be.