Self-esteem has nothing to do with others. Self-esteem is only about how you feel about yourself, in relation to you living your purpose and in alignment with your goals and principles. Anytime, others are brought into the equation, it is a substitute or coping mechanism so we don’t have to face ourselves. 

(or How To Fix A Relationship)

If you truly desire to become better and create harmony, peace, and trust; then your actions will match your heart: do the three things listed below. 

If you want self-respect (inner respect) which then creates outward or other-respect then do these three (3) things consistently:

# 1 – Go To Bed Early & Wake Up Early 

# 2 – Practice Patience / Control Your Anger (not suppress, not hide, not manage, but true control)

# 3 – Physical Exercise  

Doing these things is the foundation, they create the space and environment for others to trust you (and now you can finally trust yourself). Once trust is in place, then you can build love. 

# 4 – The fourth (4th) step is just to work hard and deliver on your commitments. This is the glue that holds everything else in place. The glue is needed, but doesn’t mean much without the right foundation in place. 

# 5 – Integrity (Honesty to yourself, your values, and to others). 

The Real Deal / The Truth Truth:

Most marriage/interpersonal/relationship problems would be erased if both sides consistently did these simple things.

Doing them shows you care. 

Consistent discipline is manifested in profound success with almost superhero level of achievement. 

The more you let others share your message, the more others will trust your message. 

We all love rules and commandments that give us permission to do what is already in our hearts. 

The greatest leaders find ways to point those they lead after the direction of their own hearts. 

Hesitation kills. 

Once a decision is made then full effort with determined and purposeful action must be enacted. 

Anything less is hesitation and leaves room for failure or the advance of the enemy. 

Hesitation kills dreams, potential, and growth. 

The only thing more powerful than gratitude is encouragement. 

Helping someone fight against something is hard

Helping someone fight for something is harder. 

Helping someone to not need to fight at all is the hardest. 

Being there for them is not about intensity but rather about presence. True presence in the present is a gift. 

It is impossible to be patronizing and humble at the same time. When you are humble it means you respect yourself and it also means you respect the value of others.