Most of us have a hard time learning new things. Especially when what we learned helps us feel good about ourselves. 

Empathy is so judgy!

In order to pretend to know what someone else is going through, you need to judge them and their situation. 

Pretending you understand what someone else is going through is pure arrogance. No one can know what another is feeling exactly, the extent of those feelings, and how those feelings are affecting all previous experiences.  Some people try to label this as a positive ability, as empathy (like: “I am an Empath.” … really?). This is just self-indulgence and pride. A so called “empath” is often just someone who hasn’t learned to master their emotions so those unwanted or unhelpful emotions eventually turn into feelings and then the “empath” deludes themself into thinking they are connecting with someone else. 

Compassion is real. 

Sympathy is real. 

Empathy, be definition, does not exist though. 

Kindness and love exist in the absence of personal judgments. 

Care is love in action. 

The more you care, the less you judge, and the less you worry about the judgements of others. 

Seeing makes us want to do. 

Doing makes us want to see. 

Connect doing and seeing and deep learning becomes natural. 

Just because you are better, it doesn’t mean you will win. 

Just because you are more talent, it doesn’t mean you will thrive. 

Just because you are more experienced, it doesn’t mean you will succeed. 

Effort, Teamwork, and Courage are the variables that actually determine the outcome. 

As we train new skills, we create habits and skills that can become automatic. When we encounter surprising or stressful situations, those automatic habits are what can help us immediately.  The more we prepare, the more we end up thriving. 

In addition to millions of anecdotes, science proves that more we are physically active, the less stress and anxiety we feel. 

Surprise helps us pay attention. 

Novelty helps us remember. 

To grab the attention and minds of others, make your message/pitch/presentation surprising and novel. 

Consistency, over a long period of time, always produces better results that short intense bursts of focus. Don’t chase the rush of dopamine, dopamine is only triggered by new rewards and always has a diminishing return. 

Faith is powerfully magical, faith changes lives, creates abundance, and heals the wounded heart. But it is so, so slippery… it can often escape when we fail to focus on the right things. 

If we stop doing, we will lose faith. 

If we stop going, we will lose faith.

If we stop hoping, we will lose faith. 

If we stop pursuing, we will lose faith. 

If we change our focus, we will lose faith. 

The opposite is also true, as we keep doing, keep going, keep hoping, keep pursing, and keep the proper focus — we can find our faith again. 

Losing faith is evidence of a lack of courage.

Courage is doing the right thing (proper thing, correct thing) in the face of fear, grief, or pain.

Finding faith is courage in action. 

Once someone breaks a commitment, virtue is forsaken. All trust is lost, all respect is gone, and the ability to build true relationships is destroyed. There is a way back, and that involves going to back to the original commitment and keeping that promise, that obligation, that duty, that responsibility. 

Commitments are about you, not what or who you committed to. 

Commitments are personal. They are always your choice. People often give excuses about changes of opinions, or beliefs, or the actions of others — yet none of those things matter, none of them have anything to do with you and your willingness and ability to keep your commitment. 

The keeping or breaking of commitments always reveals our true heart and soul. 

People who choose to find excuses and break commitments will always find reasons to justify and explain away the previous commitment based on the new “light/knowledge/ideas” they have found. They will erroneously pretend that the commitments previously made are not really valid since the foundation of their belief, faith, or promise was flawed — and that their logic justifies changing their mind. Yet commitments are not about changing of the mind, they are about preserving the integrity and character of the person, the soul itself. 

The truth is, commitments are not about opinions or the about the other side, they are always about you and your willingness to be a person of virtue and morality, or someone who has no true dignity, ethics, or integrity. 

We are all busy. Busy-ness is a choice. So are our feelings. 

While emotions are instant, feelings are our long-term response to instant emotions. 

Are we busy with worry and regret or love and hope? 

Are we busy with sorrow and grief or faith and peace?