Validation is fine, and sometimes good, as long as the validation is not your source of self-esteem and confidence. 

The best way to find out what you want is to write it down and then take action. 

If after writing, and it doesn’t feel right, change.

If you start doing, and it doesn’t feel right, change. 

If you want to be influential:

serve first, 

and,

serve last. 

Those who work hard,

will always feel better, 

and find more purpose, 

then those who lay around and wait to feel better,

and wait for purpose to find them. 

If someone is helpful, 

and works hard, 

and is consistent, 

and they show concern,

and their actions match their words, 

and they don’t ask for praise, 

they are the ones you can trust. 

Often the right next step isn’t more, new, or different action, it is actually just awareness. 

Awareness leads to better decisions. 

Better decisions leads to better actions, which could mean fewer actions. 

Focus on being aware of yourself, others, and the thoughts and feelings on all sides, and watch your actions improve. 

Pay attention to negative instant emotions, take action, protect yourself and others, and then move on. Do not dwell on those negative emotions or they become feelings, and those feelings turn into negative beliefs. We fulfill what we believe. 

Stress is always directly and proportionally related to how much negative thinking we are allowing our brains to explore and dwell upon. 

We lose our peace when focus on what we are thinking, thinking about the thoughts themselves, rather than being in the moment. 

If we focus on the now, the past, and especially the future, can’t hurt us. 

 

If you want to live, feed yourself. 

For your soul to feel alive, feed yourself connection with others. 

For your body to feel alive, feed yourself with nourishing food and exercise. 

For your spirit to feel alive, feed yourself with truth and wisdom.