Victims always bring up the reasons why truth doesn’t apply to them.

Trust is earned not just by skill but by attitude as well. A great way to gain trust is to not talk negatively about others. Show kindness and respect, especially when they are not around.

If you don’t believe in others, it is because you don’t believe in yourself.

The best questions don’t need to be answered. When we hear them, we already know the answer in an instant. That is the power, that is why they are the best. The questions ignite inside of us feelings and thoughts we were hiding or searching for. Once we understand the question, we simultaneously understand the answer.

What we feel is more important than why – at first. The “why” doesn’t matter until our “what” is validated.

Autonomy is the secret to satisfaction and confidence. Get and you will never let it go. Give it to others and you will always find support.

The best find the way on their own. They want to be guided, but they don’t want the work done for them. In order to help top performers do not do the work for them, do not give them their ideas and answers – rather, coach and support and teach and mentor and let them find their own path.

Every thought we have triggers other thoughts. This is because our world is made from connections. Nothing has meaning without the context we accept and beleive. We decide how we associate each thought with other thoughts, that is the power of choice and the control we have been gifted.

When we have fear, or false ideas, or are thinking wrong it doesn’t help to deny those feelings or ideas.

Instead:

Accept – accept what you are thinking and feeling.

Name – name and label the thoughts. You are not the feelings, but you are experiencing them.

State New Intention  – decide what you want to think and feel and express the new thoughts in your mind by writing them down or saying them outloud.

Change Behavior – once you restate your experience, you can act on the new information. Nothing is real until you take action.

Beliefs + Values = Personal Meaning

Our behavior is driven by our mindset which gets its directions from the meaning we apply to every situation.